Another dishes rant
Sep. 29th, 2004 06:22 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gemfyreI don't mind washing the dishes really.
I just wish I'd get a bit of gratitude or even acknoweldgement for doing it. I feel like a forgotten housewife rather than a housemate. I do the daily chores most of the time and have to tell the housemates if I want them to do it because somehow they're blind to the ever growing pile of dirty dishes on the counter. I asked Matt to wash the dishes yesterday and he told me "But I did them a few days ago." Yes, a few days ago, and you did HALF the load that was there then and just abandoned the rest. I have done the rest of that load and at least 2 washes since because yaknow, people eat during the day and create dishes and most normal households do the dishes once a day and it never gets to great piles that need to be done in two parts.
"You create most of the dishes." Yes - on food we all eat. Again, most households the cook is the one that DOESN'T do the dishes because they do the cooking. Instead as usual I have to ask and feel like I'm a mother.
I just want a little acknowledgement and/or gratitude. See how that pile (you did see that pile right?) is suddenly gone (please tell me you noticed that too). That's because I washed them. Just say thanks or something. I usually say thanks when you do some housework, I feel guilty if I don't. Yet you two don't even realise I've done dishes.
I just wish I'd get a bit of gratitude or even acknoweldgement for doing it. I feel like a forgotten housewife rather than a housemate. I do the daily chores most of the time and have to tell the housemates if I want them to do it because somehow they're blind to the ever growing pile of dirty dishes on the counter. I asked Matt to wash the dishes yesterday and he told me "But I did them a few days ago." Yes, a few days ago, and you did HALF the load that was there then and just abandoned the rest. I have done the rest of that load and at least 2 washes since because yaknow, people eat during the day and create dishes and most normal households do the dishes once a day and it never gets to great piles that need to be done in two parts.
"You create most of the dishes." Yes - on food we all eat. Again, most households the cook is the one that DOESN'T do the dishes because they do the cooking. Instead as usual I have to ask and feel like I'm a mother.
I just want a little acknowledgement and/or gratitude. See how that pile (you did see that pile right?) is suddenly gone (please tell me you noticed that too). That's because I washed them. Just say thanks or something. I usually say thanks when you do some housework, I feel guilty if I don't. Yet you two don't even realise I've done dishes.
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Date: 2004-09-29 02:26 pm (UTC)the case you mentioned I did them friday, it was sunday, I think it's fair enough i shouldn't have expected the dishes to be needing doing, let alone having to do them since they'd been done three times by you inbetween. If other people were around to dry when I wash, I'd do the whole load, but that never seems to happen.
Often the piles of dishes you wash are ones you've just created, so I don't get to see them.
It seems that you bring this up all the time, but you don't want to change the method of doing them. It's such a problem, maybe it's time to make a roster or something
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Date: 2004-09-29 03:02 pm (UTC)A roster would be good. We'd just need a guarantee that they would be done on the rostered day.
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Date: 2004-09-30 04:33 am (UTC)