Another dishes rant

[gemfyre]

I don't mind washing the dishes really.

I just wish I'd get a bit of gratitude or even acknoweldgement for doing it. I feel like a forgotten housewife rather than a housemate. I do the daily chores most of the time and have to tell the housemates if I want them to do it because somehow they're blind to the ever growing pile of dirty dishes on the counter. I asked Matt to wash the dishes yesterday and he told me "But I did them a few days ago." Yes, a few days ago, and you did HALF the load that was there then and just abandoned the rest. I have done the rest of that load and at least 2 washes since because yaknow, people eat during the day and create dishes and most normal households do the dishes once a day and it never gets to great piles that need to be done in two parts.

"You create most of the dishes." Yes - on food we all eat. Again, most households the cook is the one that DOESN'T do the dishes because they do the cooking. Instead as usual I have to ask and feel like I'm a mother.

I just want a little acknowledgement and/or gratitude. See how that pile (you did see that pile right?) is suddenly gone (please tell me you noticed that too). That's because I washed them. Just say thanks or something. I usually say thanks when you do some housework, I feel guilty if I don't. Yet you two don't even realise I've done dishes.

Comments

[dormant-dragon.livejournal.com]

Understand the lack of appreciation thing, in more than just the dishes thing - at least I now have a housemate who does the dishes on about the same level of regularity that I do (unlike previously mentioned former housemate who was like the grasshoppers on Bug's Life - they come, they eat, they leave *the dishes lying about*)

Work, too - in my current jobs, my work is much more frequently appreciated and I don't have everything I do called into question by people who think they know better.