I want to have my cake and eat it too.

[gemfyre]

Nobody is perfect.
Nobody will ever be perfect for someone else.

But bits of many people can provide all the parts of a perfect person, and most are perfectly willing to accept the flaws as well.

So - why is it not the acceptable thing to have a lot of people, and enjoy the little bits of perfection in them all?

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[miwasatoshi.livejournal.com]

I think the flaws of all the people would be more likely to make it more complex, not less.

Exactly.

I also do not equate emotional intimacy with sexual intimacy. Considering that the feelings that I have for many of my friends are on the same level, if not deeper, than toset of siblings, you run into a situation similar to the incest taboo. There is also the fact that I am simply not sexually attracted to men.

I imagine that if my wife were supportive of polyamory, I would explore it more seriously, but seeing as she is not, I simply don't go there. Frankly, I don't think it *could* work for me ... I'm too whimsical, demanding, and irritating for multiple people to stand being intimate with me at once.

But if people can make it work for them, hey, more power to 'em.

Too bad 100% of poly relationships I've seen have been pretenses for power trips (a situation all too common with monogamous relationships, and the danger of which is compounded by the lack of jealousy in a perpetrator's partners).