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Aug. 12th, 2003 09:55 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gemfyreThis social norm of monogamy sucks.
Why can't we have multiple people, all who make us happy in one way or another?
Then when you want a certain kind of happiness you go to that certain person.
Then I wouldn't have to be sad.
Why can't we have multiple people, all who make us happy in one way or another?
Then when you want a certain kind of happiness you go to that certain person.
Then I wouldn't have to be sad.
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Date: 2003-08-12 07:04 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-12 07:07 am (UTC)As do I... or did... I dunno, I'm changing.
There's still that nasty, evil emotion called jealousy. Whoever invented that should be shot.
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Date: 2003-08-12 07:15 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-13 01:13 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-12 07:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-12 09:03 am (UTC)Unfortunately our culture dissaproves so we are hard-wired by society to be jealous. It takes a strong will to even attempt to break that conditioning.
I know I've tried and I've failed. All I achieved was that I really loathe myself when I become jealous :)
I agree
Date: 2003-08-12 09:05 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-12 09:24 am (UTC)and even i follow it these days to a degree. i dont cheat on partners...but eventually it all breaks down because im not happy. In fact im sick of sticking to that norm.... im happier without it i think
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Date: 2003-08-12 08:40 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-13 12:46 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-13 12:55 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-13 12:56 am (UTC)I'm talking about real life.
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Date: 2003-08-13 06:54 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-13 06:56 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-12 09:42 am (UTC):)
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Date: 2003-08-12 10:06 am (UTC)why is there this insane incessant need for absolutely everything to be centred around fucking?
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Date: 2003-08-12 10:24 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-12 10:26 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-12 10:38 pm (UTC)Interesting post about polyamorous relationships that don't involve sex.
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Date: 2003-08-13 01:11 am (UTC)Go dudelio!
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Date: 2003-08-14 04:05 pm (UTC)I mean, you hear all the stories about people getting married and then never hanging out with their friends again. I make a real effort to hang out with my friends a lot because I know that if I am not careful I will end up spending all my time with my b/f, because it is easier. I don't have to go out or make any effort or organise anything to spend time with him, he is just there. I think that a lot of people find they feel the same way and neglect their friendships, and maybe that is why they end up unfulfilled.
A kick arse book on nonmonogomy....
Date: 2003-08-12 06:33 pm (UTC)Bug me & I'll lend you my copy at some point. But its a great guide on how to make nonmonogomy work in a society where monogomy is considered "stable" & "normal".
-LisA.
Re: A kick arse book on nonmonogomy....
Date: 2003-08-13 02:01 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-12 11:54 pm (UTC)The Ethical Slut is exactly who i am and im proud of it.
polyamory rocks!
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Date: 2003-08-13 12:45 am (UTC)I just want someone who can give me the "half" of the relationship that is missing but keep the other person who provides the other "half" as well.
*grin*
Date: 2003-08-13 08:59 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-13 01:57 am (UTC)Amen!
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Date: 2003-08-13 06:36 am (UTC)I...understand!
Right now I am in a polyamarous relationship, and I am very VERY happy....adn well....no one else seems to be :(
People keep telling me to get rid of my parnter so I won't get hurt....and them telling me that out of "concern" hurts more than anything..
hmm
Date: 2003-08-13 09:05 am (UTC)Sounds like you are in a open & trusting relationship- are you happy? Is there trust? If so tell everyone else to fuck themselves :P
Re: hmm
Date: 2003-08-13 09:16 am (UTC)Other people just have a hard time accepting....or at least being nice about it! They can have thier opinions...and I can have mine
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Date: 2003-08-13 08:02 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-13 08:07 am (UTC)http://www.livejournal.com/users/touchofgrey/100709.html