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[gemfyre]

I think I'm subtle all the time because if I'm subtle and get rejected then it's like "oh, I was too subtle, they didn't understand."

If I'm direct and I get rejected, I have nothing to soften the blow of the fact that I'm just not wanted, I'm terrified of that, it rips me to shreds...

I have no problem with my self-esteem. It's self-confidence I lack. But it's really hard to develop any self-confidence when you keep getting put down.

I remember always being told that I failed at something because I never put in enough effort and that bugged me to the core because goddamn, I did put in the effort, I just can't control other people, I can't make them do what I or anyone else wants, so therefore I fail.

I don't put effort in - I fail.
I do put effory in - I still fail.

Really motivational eh?

And it's so lovely when people just walk away. It's great to know you don't want to put effort in either, even though everyone else seems to succeed on occaision. I guess I'm not worth the bother...

I think I'll go retreat to the darkness of my own fucked up thoughts again now.

Maybe one day, because for some stupid reason I do keep trying. I will end up winning, I will be the one calling the shots.

Or maybe I'm just deluding myself.

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[natsuchan.livejournal.com]

It's the trying that's important, not success or failure, and if you learn something then you haven't failed at all. What other people think is of not real importance they never know the whole story because they're on the outside looking in. The effort matters, the struggle and the fight count for more in the end than the goal. They teach you more. Still hugs.