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[gemfyre]

I think I'm subtle all the time because if I'm subtle and get rejected then it's like "oh, I was too subtle, they didn't understand."

If I'm direct and I get rejected, I have nothing to soften the blow of the fact that I'm just not wanted, I'm terrified of that, it rips me to shreds...

I have no problem with my self-esteem. It's self-confidence I lack. But it's really hard to develop any self-confidence when you keep getting put down.

I remember always being told that I failed at something because I never put in enough effort and that bugged me to the core because goddamn, I did put in the effort, I just can't control other people, I can't make them do what I or anyone else wants, so therefore I fail.

I don't put effort in - I fail.
I do put effory in - I still fail.

Really motivational eh?

And it's so lovely when people just walk away. It's great to know you don't want to put effort in either, even though everyone else seems to succeed on occaision. I guess I'm not worth the bother...

I think I'll go retreat to the darkness of my own fucked up thoughts again now.

Maybe one day, because for some stupid reason I do keep trying. I will end up winning, I will be the one calling the shots.

Or maybe I'm just deluding myself.

Comments

[firvulag.livejournal.com]

Your subtlety is so subtle that it often goes unnoticed by me. Even when you think you aren't being subtle it isn't noticed by me.

However, it's not supposed to be about success and failure. You want to have all the power to control what is going on, which for alot of things i'm quite happy for you to have, so long as i still get to control myself i really don't care what else you control.

Today, and the last few days, I haven't really been in the mood for other people. At all. I went to kareoke because I knew you wanted me to, and because we didnt go last week. We went to the fondue party because you wanted to. Or so it seemed to me. I would have just as easially missed it. I wanted to play pool, so I did, and tried minor socializing which was a drain on me.

I can already feel a headache starting again today, I'm not really in the mood for people that want more than i can give at the moment, but I don't want you to go because I like having you here without anything happening too.

subtle...

[shrika.livejournal.com]

Your subtlety is so subtle that it often goes unnoticed by me. Even when you think you aren't being subtle it isn't noticed by me.

Matt, hitting you over the head with a mallet remains often unnoticed by you (and not because of the concussion you would most likely have afterwards!) *smiles sweetly*