Aug. 10th, 2003
Things I have learned
Aug. 10th, 2003 12:10 pmApparently to be a proper social animal you must be rude, intrusive, obnoxious and be able to lie and talk out of your ass.
I've never been one to make the first move. Just be polite and unassuming and wait for someone to come to you. Never happens. You have to go out there and MEET people. But when you do go and blow your own trumpet or repeat yourself and yell because no-one listened or acknowledged the first time you're labelled an attention seeker and ignored. How the FUCK does all this stuff work?
If someone doesn't want to care about your needs and wants and desires and ailments, you can't make them care. About all you can do is get over it and go out and seek out people who DO care.
Really, I've done this before. Instead of talking about it I should do it. I recall a party I went to once when I had to go home around midnight because I worked the next day. I just went around and declared that I at least wanted to be introduced to everyone before I had to go. I haven't seen those people in years, I don't even remember who most of them were. So much for that eh?
But, maybe if I do lie a bit, make myself memorable. Make people want my number and call me and do things with me and get to know me. It'll be weird lying, I'm not very good at it. But apparently it seems to the truth is not memorable enough. Maybe when I reel someone in with fibs I can let them know the truth. Will they stay or will they run?
"Go with your heart" and "Just be yourself". Yeah, they seem to be bullshit too. Myself is too fucking schizoid. Everyone just looks at me like I'm some circus freak then forgets, maybe talks about me from time to time as a curiousity.
Yes yes, I know some of you DO think I am worth knowing and stuff. Feel free to call me and ask me to do stuff. I'll be making a good attempt to do the same.
Why is it that some people seem to have all the time in the world for other people and are up and out as soon as the call is placed. Some of us have work and schedules. But in that case just the fact of getting the invite is nice enough. Being pawned off as not worth it because we'll have something else on is just the way to alienate people more. The more invites there are the probability that we can make it to some of those invites increases.
I still need to move out. Caught between the rock and a hard place. I have no money or resources to move out but I NEED the proximity to other people and to get away from parents and an environment that is driving me insane and isn't awfully conducive for study.
I have been accused of being immature, like it's a bad thing to be so. I don't get it. Because I collect my favourite childhood toy and don't talk openly about sex I'm labeled as immature. By someone who does not give a shit about how other people are feeling. Like a 2 year old who's every toy is MINE and doesn't know the concept of sharing or realising that others have differing thoughs and feelings. It just doesn't make sense. It's okay to be 2 year old immature but not okay to be nostalgic, "leave bedroom stuff in the bedroom" immature. *shrug*
At the moment all the bits of me seem to be parrallel instead of linear like they used to be. Happy me would be around till it got late and I got tired. The someone would trigger sad me and they'd settle in for the night sometimes joined by frustrated me. Those two just feed off each other until exhaustion takes over and the next morning the feeling's gone but you feel hollow because of it. At the moment happy me and you-don't-have-to-take-this-bullshit me are running in conjuction with sad me and frustrated me and I'll-bow-to-you-and-do-anything-you-say me. My brain's finding it a little hard to cope but like all things, you do what must and survive it.
Que sera sera I guess...
I've never been one to make the first move. Just be polite and unassuming and wait for someone to come to you. Never happens. You have to go out there and MEET people. But when you do go and blow your own trumpet or repeat yourself and yell because no-one listened or acknowledged the first time you're labelled an attention seeker and ignored. How the FUCK does all this stuff work?
If someone doesn't want to care about your needs and wants and desires and ailments, you can't make them care. About all you can do is get over it and go out and seek out people who DO care.
Really, I've done this before. Instead of talking about it I should do it. I recall a party I went to once when I had to go home around midnight because I worked the next day. I just went around and declared that I at least wanted to be introduced to everyone before I had to go. I haven't seen those people in years, I don't even remember who most of them were. So much for that eh?
But, maybe if I do lie a bit, make myself memorable. Make people want my number and call me and do things with me and get to know me. It'll be weird lying, I'm not very good at it. But apparently it seems to the truth is not memorable enough. Maybe when I reel someone in with fibs I can let them know the truth. Will they stay or will they run?
"Go with your heart" and "Just be yourself". Yeah, they seem to be bullshit too. Myself is too fucking schizoid. Everyone just looks at me like I'm some circus freak then forgets, maybe talks about me from time to time as a curiousity.
Yes yes, I know some of you DO think I am worth knowing and stuff. Feel free to call me and ask me to do stuff. I'll be making a good attempt to do the same.
Why is it that some people seem to have all the time in the world for other people and are up and out as soon as the call is placed. Some of us have work and schedules. But in that case just the fact of getting the invite is nice enough. Being pawned off as not worth it because we'll have something else on is just the way to alienate people more. The more invites there are the probability that we can make it to some of those invites increases.
I still need to move out. Caught between the rock and a hard place. I have no money or resources to move out but I NEED the proximity to other people and to get away from parents and an environment that is driving me insane and isn't awfully conducive for study.
I have been accused of being immature, like it's a bad thing to be so. I don't get it. Because I collect my favourite childhood toy and don't talk openly about sex I'm labeled as immature. By someone who does not give a shit about how other people are feeling. Like a 2 year old who's every toy is MINE and doesn't know the concept of sharing or realising that others have differing thoughs and feelings. It just doesn't make sense. It's okay to be 2 year old immature but not okay to be nostalgic, "leave bedroom stuff in the bedroom" immature. *shrug*
At the moment all the bits of me seem to be parrallel instead of linear like they used to be. Happy me would be around till it got late and I got tired. The someone would trigger sad me and they'd settle in for the night sometimes joined by frustrated me. Those two just feed off each other until exhaustion takes over and the next morning the feeling's gone but you feel hollow because of it. At the moment happy me and you-don't-have-to-take-this-bullshit me are running in conjuction with sad me and frustrated me and I'll-bow-to-you-and-do-anything-you-say me. My brain's finding it a little hard to cope but like all things, you do what must and survive it.
Que sera sera I guess...
Things I have learned
Aug. 10th, 2003 12:10 pmApparently to be a proper social animal you must be rude, intrusive, obnoxious and be able to lie and talk out of your ass.
I've never been one to make the first move. Just be polite and unassuming and wait for someone to come to you. Never happens. You have to go out there and MEET people. But when you do go and blow your own trumpet or repeat yourself and yell because no-one listened or acknowledged the first time you're labelled an attention seeker and ignored. How the FUCK does all this stuff work?
If someone doesn't want to care about your needs and wants and desires and ailments, you can't make them care. About all you can do is get over it and go out and seek out people who DO care.
Really, I've done this before. Instead of talking about it I should do it. I recall a party I went to once when I had to go home around midnight because I worked the next day. I just went around and declared that I at least wanted to be introduced to everyone before I had to go. I haven't seen those people in years, I don't even remember who most of them were. So much for that eh?
But, maybe if I do lie a bit, make myself memorable. Make people want my number and call me and do things with me and get to know me. It'll be weird lying, I'm not very good at it. But apparently it seems to the truth is not memorable enough. Maybe when I reel someone in with fibs I can let them know the truth. Will they stay or will they run?
"Go with your heart" and "Just be yourself". Yeah, they seem to be bullshit too. Myself is too fucking schizoid. Everyone just looks at me like I'm some circus freak then forgets, maybe talks about me from time to time as a curiousity.
Yes yes, I know some of you DO think I am worth knowing and stuff. Feel free to call me and ask me to do stuff. I'll be making a good attempt to do the same.
Why is it that some people seem to have all the time in the world for other people and are up and out as soon as the call is placed. Some of us have work and schedules. But in that case just the fact of getting the invite is nice enough. Being pawned off as not worth it because we'll have something else on is just the way to alienate people more. The more invites there are the probability that we can make it to some of those invites increases.
I still need to move out. Caught between the rock and a hard place. I have no money or resources to move out but I NEED the proximity to other people and to get away from parents and an environment that is driving me insane and isn't awfully conducive for study.
I have been accused of being immature, like it's a bad thing to be so. I don't get it. Because I collect my favourite childhood toy and don't talk openly about sex I'm labeled as immature. By someone who does not give a shit about how other people are feeling. Like a 2 year old who's every toy is MINE and doesn't know the concept of sharing or realising that others have differing thoughs and feelings. It just doesn't make sense. It's okay to be 2 year old immature but not okay to be nostalgic, "leave bedroom stuff in the bedroom" immature. *shrug*
At the moment all the bits of me seem to be parrallel instead of linear like they used to be. Happy me would be around till it got late and I got tired. The someone would trigger sad me and they'd settle in for the night sometimes joined by frustrated me. Those two just feed off each other until exhaustion takes over and the next morning the feeling's gone but you feel hollow because of it. At the moment happy me and you-don't-have-to-take-this-bullshit me are running in conjuction with sad me and frustrated me and I'll-bow-to-you-and-do-anything-you-say me. My brain's finding it a little hard to cope but like all things, you do what must and survive it.
Que sera sera I guess...
I've never been one to make the first move. Just be polite and unassuming and wait for someone to come to you. Never happens. You have to go out there and MEET people. But when you do go and blow your own trumpet or repeat yourself and yell because no-one listened or acknowledged the first time you're labelled an attention seeker and ignored. How the FUCK does all this stuff work?
If someone doesn't want to care about your needs and wants and desires and ailments, you can't make them care. About all you can do is get over it and go out and seek out people who DO care.
Really, I've done this before. Instead of talking about it I should do it. I recall a party I went to once when I had to go home around midnight because I worked the next day. I just went around and declared that I at least wanted to be introduced to everyone before I had to go. I haven't seen those people in years, I don't even remember who most of them were. So much for that eh?
But, maybe if I do lie a bit, make myself memorable. Make people want my number and call me and do things with me and get to know me. It'll be weird lying, I'm not very good at it. But apparently it seems to the truth is not memorable enough. Maybe when I reel someone in with fibs I can let them know the truth. Will they stay or will they run?
"Go with your heart" and "Just be yourself". Yeah, they seem to be bullshit too. Myself is too fucking schizoid. Everyone just looks at me like I'm some circus freak then forgets, maybe talks about me from time to time as a curiousity.
Yes yes, I know some of you DO think I am worth knowing and stuff. Feel free to call me and ask me to do stuff. I'll be making a good attempt to do the same.
Why is it that some people seem to have all the time in the world for other people and are up and out as soon as the call is placed. Some of us have work and schedules. But in that case just the fact of getting the invite is nice enough. Being pawned off as not worth it because we'll have something else on is just the way to alienate people more. The more invites there are the probability that we can make it to some of those invites increases.
I still need to move out. Caught between the rock and a hard place. I have no money or resources to move out but I NEED the proximity to other people and to get away from parents and an environment that is driving me insane and isn't awfully conducive for study.
I have been accused of being immature, like it's a bad thing to be so. I don't get it. Because I collect my favourite childhood toy and don't talk openly about sex I'm labeled as immature. By someone who does not give a shit about how other people are feeling. Like a 2 year old who's every toy is MINE and doesn't know the concept of sharing or realising that others have differing thoughs and feelings. It just doesn't make sense. It's okay to be 2 year old immature but not okay to be nostalgic, "leave bedroom stuff in the bedroom" immature. *shrug*
At the moment all the bits of me seem to be parrallel instead of linear like they used to be. Happy me would be around till it got late and I got tired. The someone would trigger sad me and they'd settle in for the night sometimes joined by frustrated me. Those two just feed off each other until exhaustion takes over and the next morning the feeling's gone but you feel hollow because of it. At the moment happy me and you-don't-have-to-take-this-bullshit me are running in conjuction with sad me and frustrated me and I'll-bow-to-you-and-do-anything-you-say me. My brain's finding it a little hard to cope but like all things, you do what must and survive it.
Que sera sera I guess...
First interview off the ranks.
Aug. 10th, 2003 02:12 pmThis one from Paul (also known as
arkem
What are your passions?
I never really think of anything I do as a passion. However I quite often find myself thinking about biol related stuff and thinking "even though some of it's a bitch, this is SO what I wanna do." I shudder everytime I think that if I passed the TEE I would have done psychology or english or something equally scary.
Why Biology?
It's proper science, I was getting sick of black and white areas. But then of course, there ARE grey areas but again, that's only because ethics is bought into it. On the level of pure science it's all black and white.
And it's nature doing what she does. I'm also interested in stuff like astronomy, vulcanology, geology, metrology etc because it all works in conjuction with biology, it's all nature doing her thing. I like that. It's something steadfast, unlike anything done by humans. When we are all dead and gone nature will keep on keeping on.
And I love animals, have all my life. :)
Where are you heading in future?
Hopefully towards a degree. Travelling to beautiful places around the world and nature geeking there. Getting a nice house by the beach to live in... that's where I want to head. Where I AM heading? No idea, I can't see the future, I don't really want to.
Do you think you'll ever stop loving your ponies?
I don't really know. Collecting has slowed down recently due to lack of money and the G3 ponies (G3 = third generation, the new guys). But I still like to sit in the ponyroom and look and reminisce and sometimes even play. I often think of all the money I could get if I sold them. But I just couldn't do that. I place to many memories in objects to free up my mind for other information.
Do you think of yourself as a geek of any sort?
You know the answer to this one. I am a Nature Geek!! Coined the phrase myself, don't'cha like it?
As for computers I seem to know just enough to be dangerous.
What's your dream job?
Wildlife studier/photographer/writeabouterer extrodinarre. I want David Attenborough's job. The places he's been!! The things he's seen!! Bastard!
What's your favourite flavour of icecream?
To have topping - Connesuir Bourbon Bean Vanilla
Cheap from the supermarket - Cadbury Caramello (Light Honeycomb close second)
Expensive from the supermarket - Cadbury Crunchie
From ice cream places - Baskin Robbin's Honeycomb one was droolworthy. Gelare lemon sorbet, Gelare's mint chip fudge, Gelare's choc chip chunk yoghurt. Heavenly
What things are currently on your wishlist?
A bunch of geek books (just get me the entire popular science section at Boffins.
Those new fangled cup bra thingys.
To move out, into somewhere nice with people I can get along with.
What are your passions?
I never really think of anything I do as a passion. However I quite often find myself thinking about biol related stuff and thinking "even though some of it's a bitch, this is SO what I wanna do." I shudder everytime I think that if I passed the TEE I would have done psychology or english or something equally scary.
Why Biology?
It's proper science, I was getting sick of black and white areas. But then of course, there ARE grey areas but again, that's only because ethics is bought into it. On the level of pure science it's all black and white.
And it's nature doing what she does. I'm also interested in stuff like astronomy, vulcanology, geology, metrology etc because it all works in conjuction with biology, it's all nature doing her thing. I like that. It's something steadfast, unlike anything done by humans. When we are all dead and gone nature will keep on keeping on.
And I love animals, have all my life. :)
Where are you heading in future?
Hopefully towards a degree. Travelling to beautiful places around the world and nature geeking there. Getting a nice house by the beach to live in... that's where I want to head. Where I AM heading? No idea, I can't see the future, I don't really want to.
Do you think you'll ever stop loving your ponies?
I don't really know. Collecting has slowed down recently due to lack of money and the G3 ponies (G3 = third generation, the new guys). But I still like to sit in the ponyroom and look and reminisce and sometimes even play. I often think of all the money I could get if I sold them. But I just couldn't do that. I place to many memories in objects to free up my mind for other information.
Do you think of yourself as a geek of any sort?
You know the answer to this one. I am a Nature Geek!! Coined the phrase myself, don't'cha like it?
As for computers I seem to know just enough to be dangerous.
What's your dream job?
Wildlife studier/photographer/writeabouterer extrodinarre. I want David Attenborough's job. The places he's been!! The things he's seen!! Bastard!
What's your favourite flavour of icecream?
To have topping - Connesuir Bourbon Bean Vanilla
Cheap from the supermarket - Cadbury Caramello (Light Honeycomb close second)
Expensive from the supermarket - Cadbury Crunchie
From ice cream places - Baskin Robbin's Honeycomb one was droolworthy. Gelare lemon sorbet, Gelare's mint chip fudge, Gelare's choc chip chunk yoghurt. Heavenly
What things are currently on your wishlist?
A bunch of geek books (just get me the entire popular science section at Boffins.
Those new fangled cup bra thingys.
To move out, into somewhere nice with people I can get along with.
First interview off the ranks.
Aug. 10th, 2003 02:12 pmThis one from Paul (also known as
arkem
What are your passions?
I never really think of anything I do as a passion. However I quite often find myself thinking about biol related stuff and thinking "even though some of it's a bitch, this is SO what I wanna do." I shudder everytime I think that if I passed the TEE I would have done psychology or english or something equally scary.
Why Biology?
It's proper science, I was getting sick of black and white areas. But then of course, there ARE grey areas but again, that's only because ethics is bought into it. On the level of pure science it's all black and white.
And it's nature doing what she does. I'm also interested in stuff like astronomy, vulcanology, geology, metrology etc because it all works in conjuction with biology, it's all nature doing her thing. I like that. It's something steadfast, unlike anything done by humans. When we are all dead and gone nature will keep on keeping on.
And I love animals, have all my life. :)
Where are you heading in future?
Hopefully towards a degree. Travelling to beautiful places around the world and nature geeking there. Getting a nice house by the beach to live in... that's where I want to head. Where I AM heading? No idea, I can't see the future, I don't really want to.
Do you think you'll ever stop loving your ponies?
I don't really know. Collecting has slowed down recently due to lack of money and the G3 ponies (G3 = third generation, the new guys). But I still like to sit in the ponyroom and look and reminisce and sometimes even play. I often think of all the money I could get if I sold them. But I just couldn't do that. I place to many memories in objects to free up my mind for other information.
Do you think of yourself as a geek of any sort?
You know the answer to this one. I am a Nature Geek!! Coined the phrase myself, don't'cha like it?
As for computers I seem to know just enough to be dangerous.
What's your dream job?
Wildlife studier/photographer/writeabouterer extrodinarre. I want David Attenborough's job. The places he's been!! The things he's seen!! Bastard!
What's your favourite flavour of icecream?
To have topping - Connesuir Bourbon Bean Vanilla
Cheap from the supermarket - Cadbury Caramello (Light Honeycomb close second)
Expensive from the supermarket - Cadbury Crunchie
From ice cream places - Baskin Robbin's Honeycomb one was droolworthy. Gelare lemon sorbet, Gelare's mint chip fudge, Gelare's choc chip chunk yoghurt. Heavenly
What things are currently on your wishlist?
A bunch of geek books (just get me the entire popular science section at Boffins.
Those new fangled cup bra thingys.
To move out, into somewhere nice with people I can get along with.
What are your passions?
I never really think of anything I do as a passion. However I quite often find myself thinking about biol related stuff and thinking "even though some of it's a bitch, this is SO what I wanna do." I shudder everytime I think that if I passed the TEE I would have done psychology or english or something equally scary.
Why Biology?
It's proper science, I was getting sick of black and white areas. But then of course, there ARE grey areas but again, that's only because ethics is bought into it. On the level of pure science it's all black and white.
And it's nature doing what she does. I'm also interested in stuff like astronomy, vulcanology, geology, metrology etc because it all works in conjuction with biology, it's all nature doing her thing. I like that. It's something steadfast, unlike anything done by humans. When we are all dead and gone nature will keep on keeping on.
And I love animals, have all my life. :)
Where are you heading in future?
Hopefully towards a degree. Travelling to beautiful places around the world and nature geeking there. Getting a nice house by the beach to live in... that's where I want to head. Where I AM heading? No idea, I can't see the future, I don't really want to.
Do you think you'll ever stop loving your ponies?
I don't really know. Collecting has slowed down recently due to lack of money and the G3 ponies (G3 = third generation, the new guys). But I still like to sit in the ponyroom and look and reminisce and sometimes even play. I often think of all the money I could get if I sold them. But I just couldn't do that. I place to many memories in objects to free up my mind for other information.
Do you think of yourself as a geek of any sort?
You know the answer to this one. I am a Nature Geek!! Coined the phrase myself, don't'cha like it?
As for computers I seem to know just enough to be dangerous.
What's your dream job?
Wildlife studier/photographer/writeabouterer extrodinarre. I want David Attenborough's job. The places he's been!! The things he's seen!! Bastard!
What's your favourite flavour of icecream?
To have topping - Connesuir Bourbon Bean Vanilla
Cheap from the supermarket - Cadbury Caramello (Light Honeycomb close second)
Expensive from the supermarket - Cadbury Crunchie
From ice cream places - Baskin Robbin's Honeycomb one was droolworthy. Gelare lemon sorbet, Gelare's mint chip fudge, Gelare's choc chip chunk yoghurt. Heavenly
What things are currently on your wishlist?
A bunch of geek books (just get me the entire popular science section at Boffins.
Those new fangled cup bra thingys.
To move out, into somewhere nice with people I can get along with.