PMS??

[gemfyre]

What is it about PMS??
Why do females feel the right to blame all their faults on PMS?

I have never experienced PMS, if I am being bitch it's because I'm being a bitch, not because I have PMS.

I really ponder what it is like to have genuine PMS...

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[shrika.livejournal.com]

careful what you wish for as you may just get it
and trust me PMS is something you do not want...

[odindeathcrush.livejournal.com]

*treads lightly*

i don't see females blaming all their faults on pms..if anything i see males blaming all females faults on pms.
pms *is* real, hormone fluctuations and resulting effects are well documented. hormonal producting and fluctuation affect our bodies and brains immeasurably.
have some empathy on those who do suffer. personally i don't have to have some dibilitating disease to know that those who do, suffer greatly.

[mistress-wench.livejournal.com]

I get 'em every three weeks. Most of the time, a few days before it decides to happen, I get pain and discomfort everywhere. Now, normally if I was in pain I could handle it, but this seems to be different. There's something deep inside the uterus that burns and twists from within that you just cant ignore. Pain and discomfort that cant be gotten rid of makes for a cranky me. Not to mention the hormones that are released telling the uterus to expell the unfertilised egg, and in the process, cramping up my muscles sooo unfairly. You'd think that because I can see it coming, I could prepare somehow..but it never works like that.
Nature's miracle is spring cleaning gone awry...

Thank every lucky star in the sky you don't get it

[logansrogue.livejournal.com]

I'll tell you what it's like, cause you really should know that women aren't making this PMT shit up, it's real, and it's a problem for some of us. (I wish I didn't have a problem with it like you seem not to!)

For about three days leading up to the first bleeding, everything feels heavy. I retain enough water in my stomach region that it looks like I'm two months pregnant (and I'm a reasonably slim individual!). My bowels are all engorged because there are hormones being released to begin the cramping. This makes going to the toilet so not a fun experience. I know that's not the techincal PMT, but believe me - it adds to MY premenstrual tension, that's for damned sure. I can't wear anything tight and I feel real antisocial.

Having PMT (Or PMS as the americans call it) is like losing all boundaries of your behaviour. It's like suddenly you don't process what is regular and not regular behaviour, and it's not until you realise that it's your hormones affecting you that you can actually stop yourself, and by then it's too late. It's your emotions welling up and running away with you, and you're their hostage. You'll feel amazing rage, so strong and so brutal that you want to break something (My last few days entries in my LJ? Good example).

I'll yell at my father, I'll be impatient with my family, and the pain - oh the pain makes me so short-tempered. I've nearly lost friends because of it. As such, most friends know to avoid me during that time of the month. I'll get so frustrated with myself that I'll cry.

And the crying. Holy shit the crying. I'll cry at anything. I'll cry because I'm single, even though I'm thoroughly happy this way. I'll cry because of a really cute ad on tv. I'll cry because I don't have the guts to go up and talk to a cute guy. I CRY! It's embarrassing!

Of course, this is saying nothing about the depression. Some women get very depressed, and I am one of them. Most of the time I'm okay, but sometimes a period hits hard and I get very down. I can barely control it either, and that's the real crux of the issue - control is gone, even with me on my antidepressants!

I don't blame all my faults on PMT, but once a month I ask the people that I love that they be a little forgiving if I lose control. I generally stay at home because I don't want to inflict my bad moods on people. It's not much fun for me to go out on the day I get my period at least, because I'm in extreme agony (I get such bad pains that Codis, the strongest medicine outside of getting a doctor's perscription, only numbs the pain).

I guess you could ask why the hell I don't go on the pill or go to the doctor about it. First, I know it's not that bad that it needs a doctor's attention. I can deal with it, and I prefer to. And with the pill - It's always been hell on the women in my family, really screwing with their metabolism and stuff. I have a natural hormonal cycle, and I don't want to screw with it. I am happy to deal with my cramps and stress, but I do need to take five to do that, and so do other women. So feel for them, because for a few days a month their bodies rally against them and make it difficult.

Hugs,
Nancy.
(Chatty girl at Murdoch O-day)

[gemfyre.livejournal.com]

erugh.

I get nasty cramps during that time but luckily I can usually easily cure that with Naprogesic. Rest of the month I am generally fine.

Lucky me

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[gemfyre.livejournal.com]

heh heh

this post was actually inspired by those that post inflammatory stuff on the TP then blame it on PMS.

I don't get PMS...

[peppermintrose.livejournal.com]

I'm so mellow on the days before my period that no one knows it's coming (often including me >.<). However, during the first two days of my period I get really, really sick :(
I keep saying I'm going to see a doctor, but it scares me what they'll want to do to me...Personally, I'd take PMS over whatever I've got.

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[mistress-wench.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah..i also get them during, and nothing works besides good ol' nurofen plus..or should I say codeine. Meh..apparently a good hard slog of exercise does the trick as well, but really, WHO in their right minds would give up a reason to have just that little extra bit of time in the shower or the excuse to eat chocolate?!?! No wonder I am always feeling tired...

Hey why not I'll jump on the band waggon too.

[kowren.livejournal.com]

One of my friend's gets it so bad she pukes all over the place. Rough eh? I just have to kill everyone then I'm ok. Unfortunately putting people back together again after you have ripped into them is a son of a bitch!

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[odindeathcrush.livejournal.com]

roflmao!

now see, you never clarified it was tp related!
*that* changes everything!

[lotus79.livejournal.com]

PMS is a convenient excuse for men to excuse their own thoughtlessness/bad behaviour.

And it's another little male "reason" not to take women's thoughts and feelings seriously.

It makes me so mad... like I couldn't *possibly* just be annoyed because you're a dick; *I* must be hormonal.

Excuse the sudden attack of feminism... I realise that *all* men aren't like that. Just most of the ones I know.

[lotus79.livejournal.com]

and just to add: I *do* realise that PMS is real and ppl suffer from it. I just get annoyed at it being used to dismiss real complaints, as in "oh, you're angry at me. Must be PMS, cos it can't be anything *I've* done..."

[autumnberry.livejournal.com]

I dunno, but that pisses me off, too. =P
"Oh I'm just PMSy LOLOLOLOLOL!!1111 so therefore you don't REALLY think i'm a stupid bitch... right? it's just PMS... honest..."
*AHEM* 9_9

[veronicaisdead.livejournal.com]

Too many women DO use it as an excuse to brush off bitch-like behavior, so I have no sympathy for anyone that mentions it now. When a female mentions it to me I see them as both a bitch and a coward, because they can't fess up to the real reason they act the way they do. Uh, hello, PMS does not last the whole month. Try another one.

In defence of the male side?

[firvulag.livejournal.com]

Or maybe not...

I know enough women that do stupid things that they wouldnt when they arent suffering, and I know enough guys that don't have a brain and will just say "it must be PMS" when the female gets pissed off at them.

However, More females than males (that i know) are the ones that bring PMS into the argument by blaming it. Personally i think that using anything as an excuse for the way you act is kinda stupid.

And as a final thing, for people like me that have alot of pain, I'd rather be a normal and healthy person that has to go through pains once a month than actually having to put up with the pain i go through 2-3 times a week.

Let the flaming begin :)

Re: In defence of the male side?

[gemfyre.livejournal.com]

*cuddles*

maybe my magic blue pills could help you??

*giggles*

[tazaria.livejournal.com]

Mine's usually limited to a day, about a week before when I'll just cry at the drop of a hat.

[sassamifrass.livejournal.com]

I get yucky cramps the day before and the first day or two, feel a bit sickly but Naprogesic helps sometimes... and it never makes me less inclined to be mean, just more sooky :P

I don't think I get PMS.. I mean, sometimes I feel irrationally angry with people, but I think that's not a PMS thing, as it never happens at a regular time in relation to my period, some days I'm just not in a good mood ^~;

Erk.

[morninglord.livejournal.com]

*breaks*
*crumbles into little pieces*